Daughter Vs Mother

Life is so funny it gives you back what you do.

This Woman’s day my tribute to all wonderful mothers of this world !! Well, I mentioned this post as Daughter Vs Mother, it’s not about the fight between two beautiful creature of the God, but it’s 2 faces of a single woman whose life turns when she switch the role from a daughter to a mother…

Why we always says “PAPA KI PARI ” why it is assumed and said “daddy’s girl and momma’s boy ” have you ever thought about it?

Well, as a daughter if someone ask me whom I was close to I say my papa and if someone ask me whom I admire most, I say my mom ❤ now the difference is dad’s are always a best friend who pampers you, goes crazy play with you and make sure whatever you wish for you get that.

40a1ff3325551d204c5128eac296610cOn the other hand, if you ask your mom or rather force your mom to get something for you, she will give you hundred reasons to adjust in what you have rather wasting money.

As a daughter, I remember whenever I asked any permission from my mom she always answered saying “ask dad” I never understood that point of time. I was being most pampered daughter of my dad and never thought about what all going to be. My mom always said “Study hard and be independent” but at that delicate age when all girls 80% fall in love or dream about their crush I too joined that 80% and thinking “Mom is like Hitler ”

When I used to go to college to attend a lecture at 6:00 am my mom was always ready with hot tiffin packed for me which sometimes irritated me and I went without taking that tiffin and casually saying ” I will have in canteen ” never thought what she would have felt. I love my mom it doesn’t mean that I never felt bad but yes as a daughter I thought it’s my right and liberty to leave my room unorganized and when something goes missing the only word which echoes “Mummyyyyy Mummmyyyyyy”

By God’s grace and my parent’s  wishes, I got married to a wonderful person and my better half. With full Bollywood style dreams, I entered in new phase of life and thought I will make my life like a cake with wonderful icing of love and my kids as cherry on top and from a daughter when my life took a turn towards a MOTHER now I realize what mothers go through as now I am in her shoes. super-woman-multitasking-illustration_23-2147534278

I still love my dad most but I salute my mom for giving me upbringing to adjust in whatever I have in life, I thank my dad for fulfilling my every single wish but I owe my life to my mother who always says “study hard and be independent ” now I realise after being a mother that what she meant by being independent it’s not about 9 am to 6 am job she was talking about, she was trying to tell that you will get 24/7 job but don’t loose your individuality and keep space for your dreams and your hobbies. If she was standing with hot tiffin for me at 6 am means she was much early got up thinking I should not be hungry after my lecture. Round a clock when I think about my kids, I prepare for their exams I feel sorry for being sometimes so rude and selfish to my mom.

I am not feeling shameful saying sorry on this social platform to my mom for hurting known or unknowingly but this SORRY is straight from my heart ❤ to mom.

Now I realize why in Hindi all says “Jab maa banogi tab pata chalega..”

Yes…. I confessed that I feel sorry and bad for my deeds I did as a daughter to my mom.. do you also have to say anything to you mom …share your feelings .. NOW

Written for Masoom as a Guest Post

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BookyBoo – Book of your own kid !!

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“Books are your best friend” – my mom always told me this but still I’m not at all so fond of books…but my daughter is so fond of books.

When I heard about BOOKYBOO thought this is the best gift for my booky girl.

So I ordered one and img_0133can’t explain her expression and happiness after receiving this book.

She was so surprised to see her and her younger brother’s name on the cover page, which is always exciting for anyone.

She said “This is the best gift for her till now”

So, what’s so special about this book?

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Bookyboo brings you most amazing customized books for your kids. Genie from Bookyboo builds a personalized adventure story with a little info about your child and little munchkins of your life your kid becomes the hero of the adventure.

The personalization varies with differentimg_0151 Bookyboo themes. For example, My Adventure Bookyboo is personalized for the letters of the child’s name, the Fun Family Bookyboo is personalized for the family of the child.

I got Fun Family Bookyboo with a jungle adventure this Bookyboo can be personalized for a family with 1 or 2 children, even twins, and single parent. Age group for this book is 3-9years.

The story title will be customized to the child or children’s names.

Synopsis of this storybook: The title will be Ira and Viraj to the Rescue.This Bookyboo takes you through the jungle in an exciting adventure where the children use loyalty, teamwork, wit and courage to rescue their own parents from the cruel Evilor. Step right into the adventure where your children are heroes, and animals their friends.img_0143

Ira loved one sentence from story very much and telling little Viraj everytime now “We must stick together like glue!” She said “Mumma we can stick like magnet too “

I feel it’s a wonderful way for children to discover the power of a strong family and sibling love.

You can also include a special dedication message
Quality for the children, to be cherished forever. This will be printed at the beginning of the book.

The quality of the book : 
img_0137I will give 5 ***** stars for the quality.

Aimg_0136 myriad of colours are printed on rich, thick, textured paper. Each page opens up to panoramic full-spread illustrations. Designed for easy reading and sharing, each Bookyboo is A4 landscape size –297mm x 210mm. Each Fun Family Bookyboo has 46 pages (including the cover).

Bookyboo is printed on rich, thick, textured paper with every page opening up to panoramic full-spread illustrations.

It’s a perfect gift for your child as it’s customized with your kid’s name and your child is the hero of the adventure. It will help them to grow and above all No TV , No gadgets will give her/him best quality time with parents and they will learn more.

You can Book now via their website BookyBoo by simply entering the details.

Shipping is FREE via airmail to the following countries: – India, Malaysia, Singapore.

You can order as many books as you want for gifting too.

ORDER NOW from BookyBoo

Check my daughter’s reaction and her verdict on this gift.

Why Parents are more tensed at exam time ?

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“I don’t know what to do? last exams Isha’s friend scored more than her and Isha was little sad” Megha asked Raghav in tensed mood. 

“Why are you comparing your daughter capability ?” Raghav always hated comparison

“You will not understand…” She again went towards study room and started teaching Isha.  

This is common problem or common conversation during exam times.

Have you ever wondered why we as parents are more tensed and creates such situations?

WHY PARENTS ARE TENSED? 

  1. A comparison is the biggest mistake we do and lead to tensed.
  2. Social pressure, social updates 100/100 attendance or 100/100 marks.

The responsibility of Parents: 

  1. Remember every child is unique with his/her talent, academics are very important but don’t think that your child can be a jack of all traits, maybe your kid is gifted with some other talent than solving maths questions.
  2. Don’t pressurize your child to score more than what you want.
  3. Help them to study in the happiest environment.
  4.  Guide them to study and help them to solve their questions and doubts.
  5. Let them take a break and indulge themselves in their most loved activity may be music, dancing or playing outside which will work like a stress buster for them.
  6. Give them positive encouragement. Parents guidance and parents encouragement works as a medicine.

Give your child wings of your support, encouragements, and love rather putting him on your social pressure. Let your child be what he/she wants not what your facebook status needs.

©Ruchie2k17

 

Pain

That morning I thought will bring a smile on my face with new hopes and more security in life but front news of Bangalore Molestation on New Year eve not only put again a question mark on the security of girls but also shook me from inside.

While we ( me and my hubby ) was discussing the same my 8-year-old little princess hopped in between of discussion and asked ” Why mummy, why u saying u are scared for me ?” left me speechless…. and I just thought how many questions and unwanted pain she must be going through thinking these questions and then I put myself in her shoes and wrote this small poem from her point of view.

I am just eight

 But have few questions to raise,

Mom is not allowing me to go out and play

She says “FOR Girls it’s not safe”

Why Only for girls it’s not safe?

Why brother can still go out and play?

 I told mom , some uncle gave me sweets and talked to me nicely

She followed me and scolded uncle too

Now he does not come n give me sweets

 But I saw him teasing some didi on the street

 Dad & mom all are upset with some Bangalore New Year news,

Mom kept on saying she is scared for me , she loves me

Still why she said this I have no CLUE,

I want to ask my lovely teachers in school Who guide me ? show me right way….to move

 Why mom is only scared for me?

Why brother is allowed to play out but not me?

 Why mom stops me to get drenched in rain?

Questions are many and giving me pain Please answer me teacher and take me out of this pain !!

I still don’t know what to answer my little girl and how to explain to her that she is right,image it’s just some sick mind people making this world unsafe for her.

Linking with Amrita or Deepa for #Mondaymommymoments

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Growing up your Princess!!

When I conceived we all wanted that our home should be blessed with a beautiful daughter and God listened us and given us a beautiful angel “IRA” our face of love

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But as said everything comes with a responsibility so motherhood too !!!

My this blog post is for every mother who is growing up there princess just keep these little points in mind when you are upbringing your darling daughter to make her a strong & self dependent woman for tomorrow….

Sharing what I learned from my strong mother and passing this to my daughter!!!

  1. Make her proud being a girl:   Yes, make her feel that girls are no less than boys.. Today a girl can do each n every work which a boy can or may be better than him. Tell her to be proud being a girl !!!

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2. Compliment your daughter on other things : Don’t only compliment on her beauty or appearance but also on other things like her behavior, kindness & caring

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3. Set boundaries in your life : She is going to grow up seeing how people treat you
So that she can watch you and learn to do the same. We are their greatest teachers and they learn from what we do more than what we say. So if you are strong and demand being treated well there is a better chance she will grow up and do the same.

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4. Let them choose their passion : It’s perfectly ok if your little delicate girl choosing her interest her passion in swimming, basketball, cricket , karate let her grow in that don’t put burden of your dreams on them.

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5. Teach them the value of saving money
So that hopefully someday they won’t have to depend on anyone to take care of them financially.

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6. Telling them about periods Its really uncomfortable and awkward, but it’s important
And I want her to be prepared for when it happens. It’s my job to tell her what’s going to change with her body. She needs to be comfortable talking to someone about it and it should be me.

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7. Protect them but also teach them to stick up for themselves: It’s always hood to be a protective mom but you need to make her strong to stand up for herself!!! She should be aware that what is wrong n stand for that.

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8. Teach them to be smart when it comes to being around men and boys :  Tell them about good & bad touch ensure that they understand n follow their instincts when it comes to men or boys … Guide & let them know safety taken at time of danger.
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9. Spend atleast an hour listening to them : This should be an important part of your daily routine as then u will be aware what going on in her mind and you can clear her myths & doubts.

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10. Last but not least : Enjoy your best time you are getting with her she is one who will cherish all these moments lifelong.

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 Written on Mycity4kids