Pain

That morning I thought will bring a smile on my face with new hopes and more security in life but front news of Bangalore Molestation on New Year eve not only put again a question mark on the security of girls but also shook me from inside.

While we ( me and my hubby ) was discussing the same my 8-year-old little princess hopped in between of discussion and asked ” Why mummy, why u saying u are scared for me ?” left me speechless…. and I just thought how many questions and unwanted pain she must be going through thinking these questions and then I put myself in her shoes and wrote this small poem from her point of view.

I am just eight

 But have few questions to raise,

Mom is not allowing me to go out and play

She says “FOR Girls it’s not safe”

Why Only for girls it’s not safe?

Why brother can still go out and play?

 I told mom , some uncle gave me sweets and talked to me nicely

She followed me and scolded uncle too

Now he does not come n give me sweets

 But I saw him teasing some didi on the street

 Dad & mom all are upset with some Bangalore New Year news,

Mom kept on saying she is scared for me , she loves me

Still why she said this I have no CLUE,

I want to ask my lovely teachers in school Who guide me ? show me right way….to move

 Why mom is only scared for me?

Why brother is allowed to play out but not me?

 Why mom stops me to get drenched in rain?

Questions are many and giving me pain Please answer me teacher and take me out of this pain !!

I still don’t know what to answer my little girl and how to explain to her that she is right,image it’s just some sick mind people making this world unsafe for her.

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Growing up your Princess!!

When I conceived we all wanted that our home should be blessed with a beautiful daughter and God listened us and given us a beautiful angel “IRA” our face of love

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But as said everything comes with a responsibility so motherhood too !!!

My this blog post is for every mother who is growing up there princess just keep these little points in mind when you are upbringing your darling daughter to make her a strong & self dependent woman for tomorrow….

Sharing what I learned from my strong mother and passing this to my daughter!!!

  1. Make her proud being a girl:   Yes, make her feel that girls are no less than boys.. Today a girl can do each n every work which a boy can or may be better than him. Tell her to be proud being a girl !!!

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2. Compliment your daughter on other things : Don’t only compliment on her beauty or appearance but also on other things like her behavior, kindness & caring

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3. Set boundaries in your life : She is going to grow up seeing how people treat you
So that she can watch you and learn to do the same. We are their greatest teachers and they learn from what we do more than what we say. So if you are strong and demand being treated well there is a better chance she will grow up and do the same.

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4. Let them choose their passion : It’s perfectly ok if your little delicate girl choosing her interest her passion in swimming, basketball, cricket , karate let her grow in that don’t put burden of your dreams on them.

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5. Teach them the value of saving money
So that hopefully someday they won’t have to depend on anyone to take care of them financially.

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6. Telling them about periods Its really uncomfortable and awkward, but it’s important
And I want her to be prepared for when it happens. It’s my job to tell her what’s going to change with her body. She needs to be comfortable talking to someone about it and it should be me.

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7. Protect them but also teach them to stick up for themselves: It’s always hood to be a protective mom but you need to make her strong to stand up for herself!!! She should be aware that what is wrong n stand for that.

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8. Teach them to be smart when it comes to being around men and boys :  Tell them about good & bad touch ensure that they understand n follow their instincts when it comes to men or boys … Guide & let them know safety taken at time of danger.
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9. Spend atleast an hour listening to them : This should be an important part of your daily routine as then u will be aware what going on in her mind and you can clear her myths & doubts.

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10. Last but not least : Enjoy your best time you are getting with her she is one who will cherish all these moments lifelong.

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 Written on Mycity4kids

Meeting the truth !!

Well this is absolute true as we have lived that one truth of life once which we can’t forget in our entire life!!

2015 started with a happy note when everyone was extremely happy knowing that Ira (my daughter) is going to get her sibling to play daily but destiny holded something which is beyond our imagination.

Due date which doctors given was July 2015 and due to emergency I got in hospital on 1st April & after all check up and reports my doctor suggested us it’s really tough to save d baby as their is no water left for baby inside..

Life taught us that yes ” Truth is really stranger than fiction ” but this was not an end …. As God had some other plans stored for us…

In 25th week of my pregnancy on 9th April 15 I delivered a baby boy with weight of 800 grams at 4:00 am morning .. And doctors said no hopes as it’s really tough to save him. We all were in tears, he was breathing but doctors said no use to keep him on ventilator as it’s not going to work..he was kept in NICU & told us to sign up few formalities and wait for call from NICU as it is a matter of few hours only.

Flodded in tears we were just waiting for a call from NICU, & shift of doctors changed at 12:00 pm and beyond expectations my baby was still surviving without any life support system & that shift doctor called us immediately and said it’s a miracle as even 36th or 35th week babies do collapse but he is fighting his own let’s give a try , we got a ray of hope …with this doc  she said she will try her best & felt sorry for her colleague not putting him on life support….

We rushed and completed all formalities to admit & start his treatment… Doctor told us ” chances are still only 5% of survival as there would be many tests to be done for him as he is not only premature but extremely premature baby which has only 1% history of survival of such babies ” but for that 1% we wanted to give a try …and we have given that try.

My miracle & fighter boy started his fight for  life, for 21/2 months with tests , procedures & what not. Daily used to be a challenge for us to see new test results sometimes up sometimes down ….sometimes without oxygen pipe he survives sometimes on ventilator… Days were passing everyday just with a hope to hold him get him home someday healthy to complete my family.

With prayers, good wishes of friends & family & constant support of doctors & sisters of hospital he survived & we welcomed him home with full grand welcome & happiness.

This is one of the rare case of this hospital where 25th week baby survived & discharged in thermacoal box & kept him in that box for next 2 months.

Till now I have heard about strange stories & miracles but my MIRACLE BOY proved that no one can decide death & life only God can!!!

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My Superhero My dad

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Well it’s absolutely true my dad my hero !!!

I want to tribute my this write up for my superhero my dad!!!

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Umesh Chandra Srivastava may b just a name or some relation for others who knew him as son, brother, chacha, mama, mausa, jijaji or a friend but for us he is still our lifeline to survive every day with his teaching!!

He was always a good son , husband, brother ,friend but he was a greatest dad. He has given us best upbringing…

He got 4 daughters and never regret for that … I still remember when some relative came and said “Beti ho par Beta ban kar khayal rakhna ” papa you was there to correct him and said ” yeh beta nahi meri Beti hai aur Mujhe garv hai ki meri Beti hai … Yeh 1 Beti meri 10 Beto se lakh guna behtar hai … You said “Ruchi I am proud that you are my daughter n you proud yourself being a girl ” thanks papa for never making us realize that we don’t have any identity. Thanks and sorry words are beyond what we feel it’s much more than that .. ❤️ you made me to feel proud of being a daughter n a girl child.

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Only daughters and giving everyone best education and never regretted that he got daughters!!

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He invested his all hard earnings in our education and believed in us …

He was a mentor , he was one guiding source for me he was solution for every problem!! image

But God decided something else for us and in 2004 he got brain hamrage and paralysis attack and for 7 long years went on bed .., but he never left us alone in any situation even in bad n tough times when sometimes relatives and all left us alone he stood like big pillar of strength and made us believe that nothing is going to be wrong as long as we are correct…he was strongest person who survived on first attack for 12 hours without proper medical treatment with his will power.

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He always said ” If you believe you can .. Only then you can ”

From emotionally, mentally, financially he never left us alone …he was always there standing right with us.

But as says “अच्छाई की ज़रूरत सब को होती है ”  and may be God too need and must be he needed more so in 2010 he called him and made him a star to shine up there and give us endless light

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Papa we love u, Papa we miss u,

You must be listening to us,

and we promise…

we will follow & carry your dreams, your teaching & your values

Papa but still I need you today, tomorrow everyday!!

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Connect to kids

life is very beautiful and it becomes best when little kids enter in your life…

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Kids as we call them face of God understands parents every word and believe in that…

Your kid is important to you but more important is how you treat him/her daily …

5 simple things which you should daily once tell to your kid to feel him/her more connected to you

#1 I LOVE YOU

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Love is one language understand by every creature of God so atleast in a day tell your kid how much you love him and love being with him …how much they add value to your life…

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2# I TRUST YOU

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You are your kids first friend… Just be a friend and tell them that u trust them ..you believe in them .. Yes, they will learn to tell you all their problems n tensions without a feeling of fear!! They will know yes.. You trust them!!

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3# TELL THEM HOW SPECIAL THEY ARE

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Involve them in your happiness share your worries and listen to them tell them every celebration is happy if special person like you are part of it.. Make them to feel that special feeling!!

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4# APPRECIATE THEM

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Tell your kid that yes they made you proud on their simple help or anything…don’t hesitate to say thank you appreciate them for their little help to them ..tell them that they made u happy.

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5# YOU CAN DO IT

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Every kid needs some moral support, trust and backup …tell your kid to keep trying ..learn from failures and be grounded on winning!!

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©Ruchie2k16

Disclaimer: Originally posted on Mycity4kids